Kian 20 months

Time flies doesn't it? Kian is 20 months and going on 16. He's becoming increasingly independent and wants to make all the rules. For the record he:
•Copies everything we say. I can't really make a list of every word he says because it's different everyday. Yesterday for example, we went to the zoo and Kian got stung by a bee on his finger (so so sad!) All day long he kept saying, "my minger mommy, my minger hurts." My favorite words that he says are; no way, deeper(diaper), see ya yater(later), of course Mommy & Daddy never get old, sister, miss u and wuv u.
•Counting and colors. I'll ask him to count my fingers or count the numbers and he'll say, "four, five, four, five, four five!" When asked what color something is, it's either red or blue. We're working on abc's, but that's coming slow.
•He'll pat my belly and say baby, sometimes he'll even give it a kiss.
•His temper tantrums are increasing and getting worse. I'm starting to think I need to do something different to get these to stop. Everything he cant have turns into a screaming, hitting, throwing, thrashing meltdown. Hopefully it's just a phase.
•Now weighs 23lbs!!! He's so small, the smallest kid in nursery.
•He's still a very picky eater, it's like pulling teeth to get him to eat. He usually eats 2 meals a day pretty well. Breakfast and dinner. He naps during lunch and wont eat before he goes down. He still will not eat fruits or veggies. I try to hide them in bread or pasta so he gets a little here and there.
•He's very friendly and daring. He says hi to everyone he passes, I hope this doesn't change. At the zoo the huge gorilla was right up to the window staring everyone down. All the little kids were scared to go near the window, not Kian! He walked right up to the window and started saying, "hi, hi, hi" and knocking on the window. When jumping on our tramp, he'll walk right over to the edge, flip his legs around and drop to the ground when he wants down. Like I said, daring.
•Since his molars, his sleeping schedule is so messed up. Sometimes he sleeps for 3-4 hours and sometimes an hour. I hope with the cold season coming we can work on getting his sleep schedule regular again.
•Becoming more clingy when I have to go to work. It's hard to leave him, he always cries and chases after me.
•Starting to get interested in potty. I bought him a potty book, and it's his favorite book. He carries it around with him all day and pretends to read it. The other day he came up to me and said, "poo poo." I checked his diaper and nothing. He started walking up the stairs while saying potty. I took him to his potty and took his diaper off and sat him down. He then started whining and saying down. I guess he's not quite ready for potty training, but hopefully soon.
•He loves his books more and more which makes me so happy. When I sit in his glider in his room, he'll walk over and say, "book". He'll grab a book and come snuggle on my lap. He'll do this for about 10 books until I get off the chair.